We sat around the kitchen table, taking turns opening our hearts and looking deep into one another’s eyes, the silence lingering in the air.
I was uncomfortable.
Don’t get me wrong: I’ve learned to trust these women and love them and appreciate their encouragement every time I bore my soul. But sharing the most vulnerable parts of me never gets easier, no matter how many times I take a deep breath and begin.
But here’s the thing: lies lose their grip on us when we recognize them for what they are, as we learn to speak those demonic half-truths out loud and let trusted mentors and friends speak truth over us. The enemy loves to distort a truth just enough to make it mean something totally different, because he has come to lie, steal, and destroy.
- If I don’t look physically attractive, my husband is going to leave me.
- If I don’t eat that extra slice of pizza, who knows when I’ll have another?
- It’s just a romance novel; it’s not like I’m being unfaithful or anything.
- Why should I deprive myself of that brownie?! I’ve had a stressful day, and I deserve it!
- If God really loved me, He would make my dream come true right now.
On and on those lies roll around in our hearts and minds and we get comfortable with them, we own them… they feel safe and comfortable. They’re so closely knit to our daily thought process that they’re indistinguishable, blending in with the chores to be done, the dry cleaning to pick up, and the new recipe I want to try this weekend. Those lies make themselves at home, and the longer they stay, the more we believe them. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Seventy-eight times in the Gospels, Jesus says “I tell you the truth!” Jesus speaks the truth because He IS Truth. You can’t kick out the lies from your mind on your own; you need Truth to come in and fill your heart with Himself.
This journey toward Truth is done in community, dear friends. It’s made up of sharing and listening, praying and encouraging, inviting Jesus to come with His Truth and shine His Light. When we allow our sisters to peek into our hearts and see the pain, confusion, embarrassment… we begin to see those half-truths for what they are: lies sent from the enemy to destroy us.
So how do we break the power of lies in our lives?
- Share the lie with a trusted friend or mentor.
- Speak the Truth in its place.
It’s really that simple.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
~ James 5:16
I’ll admit, I was nervous when I hit “publish” on this post two weeks ago and this one last week. But something amazing happened when I did. God began to set me free of those lies and work healing in my life; I’ve been blown away by how many of you have responded with compassion and grace, even sharing with me that you’re in the same place, battling alongside me in the same trenches.
Thank you, dear sisters, for coming alongside me in this journey toward Grace and Truth. It’s a privilege to hear your stories and to share my own with you.
And today… today fill your minds with truth. With the words of truth we find in Scripture (like these Bible verses to overcome food cravings or these verses to encourage you on the hard days). But also with Truth Himself, who lives in us and set us free (John 8:36).
Because she whom the Son sets free (of sins, of lies, of bondage) will be FREE INDEED!
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