Over the weekend, I read The Unveiled Wife, by Jennifer Smith. Over 230 pages. In 36 hours. It was that good. So I’m giving away a copy at the end of this post!
And yes, I didn’t sleep much. Don’t judge. You’ve probably stayed up late reading a good book before, right? And this, friends, is a good book, as in Philippians 4:8 good: true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable.
What It’s About
In The Unveiled Wife, Jen tells her beautiful love story. With storytelling skill that reminds me of a well-written novel, Jen shares her love story, from how she and her husband, Aaron met, to how they fell in love, and got married. It’s a story that draws you in and makes you sigh with delight. This is a good love story.
But that’s only the beginning.
With honesty and candor, Jen shares the many struggles she and Aaron faced in their marriage, starting with their inability to have pain-free sexual intimacy, their struggles with pornography and romance novels, and the bitterness, frigidness, and despair that followed. Several heart issues were the root issue of their marital problems, and Jen shows, through artful storytelling how unrealistic expectations, imperfections, and insecurities eroded the foundation of their marriage. At one point, Jen contemplates divorce and tries to convince Aaron that they would be happier apart, but he continues to love her with a steadfast servant love.
Faced with Aaron’s persistent love despite their many struggles, Jen learns to unveil her heart and be completely transparent with God. It’s this unveiling that eventually allows her to completely open herself to her husband, resulting in a breakthrough in their marriage.
What I like about it
Honestly, I didn’t have high hopes going into the book; I’ve read a lot of marriage books that tend to be preachy, so I was a bit leery when I agreed to read Jen’s book. But I was quickly swept into the story and found myself turning page after page to find out what happens next.
The Unveiled Wife is a beautiful love story that shows how a couple can grow in love long after the wedding bells ring, not despite hardships but because of them. And that, friends, is true love.
Who Would Enjoy It
As Christian women, we need to relearn what real love stories look like. They’re not the Hollywood chick flicks that end as the couple walk into the sunset toward a happily-ever-after ending. As wonderful as Jen and Aaron’s romance was leading up to the altar, the real love story begins once trouble brews in paradise.
Anyone who has dealt with disappointments and sin in their marriage will benefit from this book. And that’s everyone. I encouraged you to check out Jen’s book. You can buy The Unveiled Wife here or download the first chapter for free here.
Marriage is hard work, and it’s refreshing to read of couples who get slammed against the wall and continue in their commitment to honor, love, and cherish. It’s precisely the difficulties that bring us to our knees, open and raw before God, in the seasons of waiting, the tense in-law relationships, the financial arguments, and the heart-wrenching sobs. It’s when pornography sneaks into the home, when tempers flare wild, and when rejection stings the worst that we are called to stand firm in our wedding vows. This is where real love takes root and grows. That’s where we learn to become like Jesus.
I’ll end with a heart-stirring quote that Jen used to begin her love story. This makes me bow my head and say, “Lord, help me love my husband like You love me.”
How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? . . . How would you ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, or heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you? Who was never difficult with you? Who never sinned against you? Who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of good things?
The main purpose of marriage is that through your marriage you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. . . . You are married to a person who does not meet all the conditions so that you might learn unconditional love. You are married to a person who needs mercy so that you learn to give it. You are married to a person who does not deserve so that you learn to lavishly pour yourself out on a person who does not respond appropriately. And thus you become like the God you worship.