“Your appointment was at 9:20 am,” she said.
“I know,” I said, as my face flushed pink with shame, my eyes discreetly checking the clock above her head. It was 9:34 am. “I’m sorry we’re late.”
She looked at me and narrowed her eyes.
I felt the heat reach the tips of my ears. “It’s my first day out with both girls,” I explained, hoping to garner some empathy.
Of course, she had no way of knowing what life looked like on my side of the receptionist window.
…that my newborn had a type of jaundice that was not responding to typical phototherapy
…that we had been in the NICU the previous week after six long days of daily doctor appointments and torturous heel pricks
…that I was experiencing extreme pain when breastfeeding, yet I still took my baby to breast every 1.5 hours in hopes of helping her health improve
…that, like any other newborn mother, I was sleep-deprived and possibly delusional at times
…that even though I wasn’t yet released to drive or lift my baby’s car seat, I had braved my way out the door with two girls in tow because there was no one else to take us to this doctor’s appointment.
But even though I knew that getting to that appointment AT ALL was a miracle, I still felt like a failure when I saw the note angrily scrawled and circled at the top of our check-in sheet: “14 minutes late.”
If I had instagrammed that moment, it’d be tagged: #momfail.
Have you ever had moments like that, when you feel like a complete failure even though you know that, in the grand scheme of things, you’re actually doing your very best?
Encouragement for Weary Moms
If this sounds even remotely familiar, you need to know two things:
- You are not a failure. Most of us feel this way far more than we ever admit.
- All the ways you failed?? How awful you did today or last week? It’s just not true. You’re doing better than you think.
We all have days like that, and that’s why I’m excited about this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.
Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers, but they’re also moms in the trenches. They’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering experience between them.
They also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart and tear-stained face, because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.
So they’ve put together an honest, candid, and encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days.”
They won’t solve all your problems, and, much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile of laundry for you. But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.
Each video is short (around 10 minutes), and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.
To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.
Trusting the One Who Is Faithful
Whether you’ve had one #momfail days or a hundred, please be encouraged that you’re NOT a failure. God chose YOU to be the mother of your children, and the One who called you will equip you and sustain you every step of the way.
And on those days when we’re standing in the doctor’s office facing our shame and others’ condemnation? Let us run into the arms of Jesus, and trust Him to complete the work that He started in us and in our children.
He who called us is faithful, and He will guide us to the very end.