When You Feel Stuck in the Dark Ages of Motherhood…

It’s my joy to welcome Wendy Speake to my blog today. I met Wendy at a blogging conference last year and she immediately embraced me and welcomed me as a creative sister. Over the past months of writing my own book, Wendy has cheered for me and counseled me and prayed for me in ways that make me eternally grateful. Her friendship has been invaluable in my life as I attempt to live this creative calling while also honoring the roles of wife and mother God has given me. If anyone understands the tricky balance of passion and practicality, Wendy does. As an actress, writer, mom, wife, and friend, Wendy is a welcomed voice of encouragement to creative moms wanting to glorify God.

Lean in as she whispers these words to our hearts, and be encouraged, dear one. 

Dear Mom in the dark ages of motherhood,1466009224969

There seems to be no time for you at all these days. No place, no space, no time to create. No letter-writing, book-reading, soufflé-baking, scarf-knitting, scrap-booking, garden-pruning… Oh no, all the pruning these days is being done to you. The constant cutting back of you, so that others might bloom. We call it sacrifice.

And it’s good and right and lovely. But it’s also hard, and sometimes we forget just who we are.

I often refer to this intense season of mothering as “the dark ages.” The light of our own passions and pleasures is snuffed out for a time as we help to shine the light on their little lives – discovering with them their passions and pleasures and purposes too. What a privilege. But again, it’s hard.

If you are a mom, struggling to fit yourself into the cracks and crevices of each long day, I want you to know that God sees. He sees the sacrifice and He sees you. Though you may feel unseen in the darkest recesses of your heart and home-life, God speaks into the dreary shadows with these words:

If I say, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me,
And the light around me will be night,”
Even the darkness is not dark to You,
And the night is as bright as the day.
Darkness and light are alike to You.
(Psalm 139:11-12)

Even the darkness is as light to the One who created you – Who purposefully stitched you together with a uniquely delightful design. You-niquely you.

1471421530016-1Perhaps He made you to sing a sweet soprano song, or wove within you a natural inclination towards hospitality, home-decorating, cooking and baking. He gave you an eye for photography or the gift of graphic design. But all that’s laid down now, cut back for this season, pruned.

The Dark Ages.

And yet we’ve this promise: He sees into the darkness of our laid down lives, and has a plan for the Renaissance to come.

In the history of the world there was a literal “dark ages” that swept across Europe in the mid-centuries. Nothing was created – nothing recorded. The known world had gone black. But, you may recall, The Renaissance followed in its wake! Renaissance literally translates, “Rebirth.” The arts were reborn again, and the church was at the helm.


What a great picture that is for you and me both, as we willingly lay our hobbies and dreams down for a season, believing that God is still God over our lives when we can’t see. He’s not in the dark. Never has been! He’s got a plan for you, all light-drenched and shining for His glory.

For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
(Psalm 139:13-14)

So often we claim this scripture promise for our children: for they are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made. But look closely and you’ll see that this Psalm was penned in the first person. This is you, fearfully and wonderfully made you! And me, fearfully and wonderfully made me. Their moms, fearfully and wonderfully made. Your husband’s wife, fearfully and wonderfully made. Even as we help to mine the marvelous gems in their most precious lives, the brilliance of our own design delights our Heavenly Father who wrought us in the secret places. That’s the promise of the Renaissance.


Here and now, confined most days to home, God continues to have a plan for you. His plan for today may simply be for you to use your God-given gifts right where you are, with your loved ones. Singing them songs and throwing them parties and telling them stories and sewing them clothes and knitting their blankets and making their meals.

I don’t know what creative gifts you’ve laid down on a grand scale for this season, but I do know this: there is gospel power bound up in your creative gifts when used in small, every-day ordinary ways too!

So let me encourage you to not lay your life down on the alter to be burned up as a sacrifice – but lay it all down at His feet to be used, for His glory, in His way, right here and now.

Welcome to the Renaissance!


7827fc87-d2ae-4cd3-ac8c-30044bc441dcIf you are creative mom, eager to use your talent for God’s glory – even in this intense season of motherhood, Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom was written for you! Co-authors Wendy Speake and Kelli Stuart believe that your unique gifts make you uniquely equipped to share the gospel right in your home, in your local communities, and even out into the world in this digital age! There is indeed a modern day Renaissance happening in homes today – and you are welcome to this Renaissance Faire! Order your copy of Life Creative by the end of September and receive “Five Steps to Turn Your Creative Hobby into a Thriving Business” for free when you click here to confirm your purchase.