After 48 Months of I Do (A Letter to My Husband)

We weren’t supposed to make it.

We were too young.

Too different.

Too infatuated.

What do 19-year-olds know of life? How can they understand that “I do” means sleepless nights, mortgage payments, in-law fights, and abandoned dreams? What will they do once hormones run out and doubts settle in?

“You’re not going to make it,” they told us, well-intentioned but sour. “Take it from us: you’re going to be miserable together.”

And we talked about that. We asked each other if we would wake up morning after morning for 60 years regretting our decision. But the truth is, I couldn’t imagine life without you. And you told me you didn’t want to even try.


Remember what you told me, that day on the riverside?

“We’ll set aside each third of the month to pray about this–about us. If God says no, then we’ll stop praying and go our separate ways. If God says yes, then we’ll keep praying every third of the month until the day we marry.”

And we did. Three long years of praying every third of the month until July 3, 2010, when we knelt and prayed that our lives would be a continual “I do.”

always together

We’ve been married now longer than we’ve dated: 48 months of celebrating Ziua de Trei, the milestone that is another month together.

You told me that day why you chose the third: “Because I want us to always remember that it’s not just you and me here. If we’re going to make it, God needs to be here too.”

And He has. God has been in the center of our marriage from before it even began. From that day we sat on the riverside and imagined what it would be like if all the naysayers were wrong and the flicker in our heart was right.

together at last

And beloved–you’re still the one.

To others, it may be “only 4 years.” What do we know of the hardships ahead? Of the stress toddlers place on marriage? Of the tension knitted in shoulders from years of bearing each others’ burdens? Of heartbreaking mistakes and trust repeatedly broken? Of decades of marriage only to hear “I want out”?

We don’t.

But this I know: the God who heard two teenagers’ earnest vow of eternal devotion, the God who drew together our journeys from different families and continents, the God who planted in us the desire to celebrate Ziua de Trei so He would be at the center always–that God will be faithful to His promise to us and He will enable us to be faithful to each other in the hard times to come.

We’ve walked hand-in-hand through some tough times. We waited in embassy lines and ER rooms; we walked through church doors and church fights; we stayed up at night laughing those full-lunged laughs and yelling those ugly words; we ate the gourmet gelatos and the peanut butter & jelly sandwiches; we mourned the loss of our loved ones and celebrated the birth of our little one.

And we will keep celebrating, not just once a year, but 12 times a year His continual “yes” to our plea for direction and blessing and our continual “I do” to each other for as long as we both shall live.

Because this verse we printed on invitations is printed also on our hearts:

I found him whom my soul loves;
I held on to him and would not let him go.
~ Song of Solomon 3:4

Looks like we made it, love: 48 months of I do’s. I’m looking forward to the next 672 to come.

together forever

Photos courtesy of Adi Serecut

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Comments 15

  1. Felicia Oana

    May the Lord God Almighty continue to bless you and keep you to the end!!!! You are a wonderful family! Love you!

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  2. Mary Geisen

    This is just beautiful. Your commitment to putting God at the center of your marriage is the key to your 672 months! Blessed to be your Weekend Brew neighbor!

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      Yes–keeping God at the center is easier said than done but SO worth it. So happy to be your neighbor!

  3. Barbie

    Oh my heart is so happy reading your beautiful love story. First, the 3rd is a great day to get married. It’s my birthday! And my daughter, who has been married for two years now, married at barely 20. She is so in love and was made for her husband. May God continue to poor out abundant blessings on you both!

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  4. Betsy

    Beautiful story! Thanks for sharing! Your pictures are wonderful. May God bless your marriage and may your relationship grow deeper and more satisfying over the years!

  5. Lois @ Live Nourished


    My husband and I just celebrated our first wedding anniversary (time has really flown – can’t believe it’s a year already!) and like you, we’ve been keeping our focus on the fact that it’s not just the two of us – Jesus is the centre strand in our triple braided cord.

    Beautiful – keep honouring Jesus, and may the Lord bless you with many more happy years ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Sarah Edwards

    I love this! I love you both! It will be 25 years for us in August and the key is God. He has to be first in your life and center of your marriage! You have to remember that your husband is not the enemy. God is for you! I love you guys!!!!

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